Friday, July 9, 2010

I Discovered the Solution

I am a very social person.  I LOVE to go out and socialize and meet new people.  Since we have had kids most of that has stopped.  There is just never anytime.  Even when there is time there are two other factors 1) my hubby and I usually want to spend the time together, alone 2) the cost of a babysitter, plus a movie, plus dinner, it just get's out of control!

So what is someone like me to do?  I feel guilty leaving hubby at home so I can go do things, but I really feel that need to be out doing something and having friends.  As a 30-something mother I find my friends are either married with kids and careers or married and no kids and still going out.  The first group is just as busy as we are and also have trouble getting out.  The second group have a group of friends and are usually going out-out.    We have tried to get together with some friends and just do game night, but it just never seems to happen.

As you can probably tell I have put a lot of thought into this situation.  Well folks I have come up with a solution - Lunches!!  Today I met one of my faves for lunch.  We never see eachother and it is just a relintless guilt trip that I am too busy for her. ;)  Really we are just too busy for each other.  It was so good to catch up and to hear her vacation story.  As well as catching up on our favorite topic, The Housewives.  So fun.

This my friends is my solution.  I will be planning more lunch dates.  The beauty of it?  Daycare is already paid for and lunch menus are cheaper! 

What things in your life have changed since you got married or had kids?  And how have you adapted?


  1. LIKE your lunch idea! Date night for us is: Rented Movie. Bottle of wine. Blanket on couch. Yep. We're party animals. With friends it's just playdates... :-)

  2. Ha, that's great! I agree with Naomi, play dates. The problem is when Moms I like don't make their kids mind and then the friendship goes down the tubes because I don't want to be around her kids. That is just the way it goes sometimes. I'm glad you had fun catching up and hanging out!

  3. Good plan. Though we were not real socialites before parenting, it certainly makes you outcasts quickly. I have enjoyed the occasional friend lunch as well and can relate.

  4. ^^^Look at Slam commenting! No kids here so no advice but lunch dates are great!

  5. Could not relate more!! Since being married with a baby, our typical date night is cooking a "fancy" meal together and sharing some vino while watching a movie. With friends, lunch is perfect! Then I don't feel bad stealing away too much time from the fam.